Feb 21, 2013

Are blind dates foolproof?

You can expect one of three things to happen on a blind date. That on the night of the date the guy will check you out from a distance; he likes what he sees and is in the restaurant to greet you, or he takes an immediate dislike to you and says he has to leave early to have supper at his mother’s house. How can you change a perception without having met and talked with the person? Well, for one thing you know that he showed up; he could easily have beaten a track to the subway. Maybe he too is taking precautions, and he has a right to. People play many games.

How honest are you on the date?
Do you go for full disclosure on the first date or do you hang back? An equal exchange of information is the best. If you can handle an inauspicious interview, that is fine as long as you are being honest also. Maybe a first date should just be a quick coffee and introduction.  Give the other person something to think about. Have a space of about three or four days if you want to call the person again. By this time the person would have thought quite a lot about it and would know and be more forthcoming also and ask questions.

What to talk about
In your talking together find out his interest in sports. Guys like to talk about their favourite players and horse around. With one or two words, invite him or her to talk about what gets them going and what makes them tick. On either of these two or three exchanges you will have from home, keep them short and light-hearted. Don’t try to impress. Keep it real. Short exchanges are better in the long run as you can think about it and toss it around; like short bursts of information. Are you ready to take it to the next step and make that first call? If you like the person and want to know more this is a good point to start from.

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