Jun 17, 2012
This is the same as someone who has food stuck in his teeth or a booger in his nose. If you are not in contact with the person frequently you might hold in your breath and not breathe in anything. If he or she is your colleague and is always standing over you at your desk to discuss a file and this is the first time I would not say anything. If the person has a problem with bad breath and is in close contact with you, you might try the following;
What to do
• Offer the person a stick of sugarless gum. If the gum works and the breath is less toxic, buy two packets of gum and give her one packet. If she is embarrassed and suspects you have smelled her breath, you might say something like, “I also had garlic for lunch. Yuk!”
• If on the next day her breath is still bad and she is a friend as well as a colleague you might say that you have something to tell her. Say that you once had a problem with bad breath, and you have a great product you could recommend. Pray that she does not react badly, and continue. Do this in a private place such as the office bathroom facilities or speak to her after work. Say you are sorry for telling her this but that she probably doesn’t realize she has a problem. Don’t bring up the name halitosis. It might alarm her if there was actually a name for it.
• Trust that the person receiving this news does not take offence although it would be hard not to. You will have to find a way to do this and at the right time at the right place. This would be the same as telling a colleague who sweats profusely and is always smelling, or someone who has spinach or food stuck in his teeth after lunch. You can do it by leaving a note in an envelope on the person’s desk or where only he or she would see it, but this would be much more hurtful as the person might think everyone knows about it. These are not pleasant measures to resort to but it still has to be done unless you can live with it.
Nothing lasts forever, not even love, not with the same intensity as the first time you met. We fall in love, we marry, we take vows, we promise, we disappoint, we forgive and we have hardly finished the wedding cake when one party aggravates the other and the couple’s true nature comes out. The fault is not with the couple. The fault is with the misunderstanding of the word love and what marriage means and whether it can sustain the rough parts as well as the good.
If you placed an ad for a companion and stated your wishes beforehand you would have more chance of finding a person you can walk with, dance with, live with because it is not a permanent set up. You can choose to leave just by giving your landlord one or two months’ notice of your move and you can date, fall out of love and depart without emotional debris and then place another ad. When you opt for marriage you sign up for a whole other deal.
We all want the same things in life; happiness, a great family, a guy we’re crazy about, but can you eat bread and jam seven days of the week? Can you go to the same couch in your living room to watch television for eight hours? Is your conversation always about the Kardashians and celebrities and nothing else? That would be a boring life. A marriage needs variety and you have to work at it by allowing each other to have their own space and interests which will also be good for the relationship. If you make no effort to spruce up your marriage and inject life into it, your neglect will be by your own hand and things will become boring and staid. A marriage has to be stimulated and both parties have to be invested.
This writer is not against marriage as it legitimizes children and has many benefits. The problem is that when we sign up for legal and emotional cohabitation, we should understand why we are doing it and what to expect. It is impossible to expect that constant high when you first met. There are many books written just on reasons for divorce; the trick is to keep it fresh and interesting. When you have a flower garden you know what happens if you don’t pull out the weeds and tend to watering daily; marriage is the same.