Protect your kids from child molesters

Did you know that according to www.Sex-Offenders.US a child is molested every four seconds and that molesters know their victims and try to buy houses near schools and parks where there are children they can approach? They blend in with the background and even talk to children long before they strike so that the child can feel comfortable in their presence. Some stalk children for months and the children know them well when they finally make a mistake to get into that vehicle. Children have been taught to be kind to strangers and so they think they know the perpetrator, and go along to look for the dog which is supposedly missing.


Pedophiles in the neighborhood

There is nothing redeemable about a pedophile or a kidnapper; they have no conscience, no remorse, they have one goal only; an irresistible urge to have sex with the child. According to statistics by the time they reach your child they would have molested about 260 victims during their lifetime. And here is the rub; a pedophile can be convicted over and over again for the same offense and come and live in your neighborhood again after he has served out his sentence.


Your only way to protect your children is to have a serious talk with them and apprise them of what can happen to an innocent child when he gets into the car of a stranger or the car of someone he does not know. They are your children; you cannot afford for them not to know. It is your duty to teach them the danger of talking to strangers and getting into strange people’s vehicles. If someone you don’t know asks you to get into the car, you don’t. You run away as fast as you can; even if it is a woman asking you to get in. In Canada years ago there was a husband and wife child molesting team driving around the neighborhood looking for someone they can molest. They stopped for a girl supposedly looking for directions, and took the girl to their house, raped her, drugged her, took photographs, and eventually killed her. One has to be as aware of female predators as one would be with males. The most serious repeat offenders show early signs of strange behavior.


• Don’t let your children open the door of the house when nobody else is home; in fact do not let your child be on his own unless he is old enough.

• Don’t leave your children with a babysitter who is the same age as the children.

• Never send your young child on his or her own to the shop.

• Teach your children how to use the alarm.

• Teach them not to get into anyone’s car, not even the uncle.


Give your child a whistle and tell him or her to carry it in the schoolbag and use it when someone wants you to get into the car to give them directions. According to a report there are about 400,000 sex offenders in the United States. Protect your family by educating your children on the dangers of strangers luring you to come with them.


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Dealing with a long distance relationship

Are you in a relationship where you go frequently on business trips and a lot of time is spent on the road and apart? Do you fear that your long distance relationship will suffer one too many bumps in that your wife will get bored and that she will meet someone else? It is not unusual to be concerned and not easy when one of you lives in one state and the other lives in another or one of you is away on business all the time. If the trip is an overnight one and he is back the following day, it is all right. If it is something that happens two or three times every week it might cause problems if you are not on the same page about the absences and you end up being responsible for everything at home. Ease the strain by employing some of the following.


Tips for long distance relationships


• Call your wife or partner from wherever you are at least once a day to keep in touch and find out what is going on at home.

• Send a ‘thinking-of-you’ message to your wife so that she knows she is not alone in the marriage.

• Bring her back something nice from the trip to show how much you care about the way she always understands.

• Try to celebrate her birthday by not being out of town and to thank her for looking so well after the children while you are away.

• Try to spend all your weekends at home so that you have several days in a row with the children.

• Don’t change the children’s activities when you are at home although you still want to spend quality time with them.

• While your mate is absent keep in touch via telephone, email, or Skype. Surprisingly, these methods of communication work very well to keep the home fires burning and are a blessing for long distance relationships.


A long distance relationship can work if you have a plan and an understanding between you. Keep in mind if your overnight trips are glamorous and provide nights out with the boys, that she is alone with the kids and waiting for you. Relationships that are nurtured work better than those that are allowed to stagnate on their own.

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Can you live without friendship

Friendship can never be outgrown unless you allow it to dry up and draw seed and it is forever lost in the wind. Friendship has to be nurtured – kept alive with postcards and phone calls, emails and little gifts throughout the year. I am talking about the kind of friendship where you can pop up out of the blue after having been married or on vacation or working in the African bush for half a century, and able to pick up after all that time and carry on again.


Different kinds of friendships

• The snapshot friendship which is a hi and bye kind of acquaintance relationship;

• The office friends who go out with you and discuss things in the workplace;

• The spiritual friendship you have with someone you go to church, mosque or synagogue with,

• The rat pack friendship you have with three or four girls where you go out and party together and have each others backs.

• The best friend at high school you got into trouble with, and that you were friends with throughout the years, even throughout marriage and divorce,

• The friendship you have with women at religious meetings or book clubs,

• The friend that stood with you in the divorce court queue to fight for custody of the kids, helped you out when you were broke, watched you cry as your daughter was hooked up to lifesaving equipment, knows all your secrets and even some your partner did not know of,

• The friend who is there for you 24/7 who will get out of bed in the middle of the night to come and turn off the water that has started to leak from the geyser,

• At the top of the list is the friend who not only knows you better than anyone, but a friend with whom you have a strong emotional connection. You can talk about anything and everything and know your privacy will be protected as the friendship is based on respect and love. A strong emotional tie with someone of the opposite sex is sometimes stronger than physical love relationships.



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