This is a hard question to answer, even for a psychologist.
Yet, it is easy to answer where there are no children involved. A man who
strikes you will strike you again, and if you do not end the relationship at that
time, you will be on an emotional roller coaster for the rest of your life. A
woman who marries for the first time has all kinds of dreams. She will be
loved, she will be cared for, she will be different from her friends who are
all in toxic relationships, and her marriage will be a success. She has every
reason to believe that. When the man raises his hand and strikes her, he
crushes everything she has believed in, including her self-esteem.
Children suffer the consequences
Where there are children involved, it is a whole different
ball game. Parents know that children who are subjected to constant strife in
the home, will act out themselves later on. A man has no right to strike a
woman. Besides the violence and ugliness, his behavior tells his children that
it is all right to be violent and to strike someone when you are upset and
cannot get your way. A striker in the home poses serious consequences. The
children will live in fear and may even hate their father. They will have
emotional scars. There is no single reason that makes it all right for a man to
strike his wife. He is callous because he is bigger than her. Worst of all, he
does not care for his children. How can you have someone like that in the house
and subject the family to danger? Many women will stay on because they have no
money to move or it is just too inconvenient to pack up and leave the family
home. You decide; the well-being of the children or the words of a liar who will
surely strike you again.
Follow your gut and save your kids
The hardest and most immediate action must be taken. Are you
going to spare your children from this kind of abuse or are you going to stay
with someone you will hate for the rest of your life? The answer can only be
yours. Remember, though, that if you decide to leave, it will be rough in the
beginning, but your actions will save your kids and tell your husband that their
emotional health means everything to you. If it means you have to temporarily
move in with your mother or a family member, you must do so. It will be rough
at first, but you will get through
it.
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