Mar 30, 2012

Just how far are we taking good parenting?

If you did not know, the term helicopter mom is an in vogue term invented for a mom who hovers like a helicopter over her children to see that they do everything right and that they have the best of everything; the best clothes, the best schools, the best tutors, the best everything. The parent means well but is so claustrophobic and unwavering that it does not at all benefit the child in the long run. Yes, you can help the child make up his bed, but if he starts standing one side while you do everything, you have just shown him how to rely on you. And if your two year old child comes to your bed to sleep with you, calm her down but take her back to her room. Explain in ways she can understand that everyone has his own bed to sleep in at night. Don’t encourage sleeping in your bed; you will have a hard time fixing the problem and raise a child who expects things to go her way all the time.

Responsibility important for a child

Hard as this may be to swallow, children need to make mistakes and learn from them. You teach them how to make up the bed, not make up the bed yourself. One of the worst mistakes a helicopter mom can make is to encourage lazy behavior and a demanding individual by doing all the paperwork and submissions to college in the belief that she is helping her child as the application will be accepted. The child does not learn anything from this exercise except that his parents have clout and can get him into university. He does not experience failure, he does not learn responsibility. He will expect that what is allowed to him in his home should be allowed by others also. This is the end result of a helicopter mom’s constant interference.

Old style values

In the forties and fifties you got a wholesome breakfast of porridge or oats with thick cream and fruit. Now our children are eating super brain foods of nuts and seeds and drinking green juice. It is of course good to eat from the earth and the tree and the sea, but are we not going just a little overboard with all this over-parenting? I read somewhere that the state of Georgia provided newborns with a CD called ‘Build your baby’s brain through the power of music’ after researchers claimed to have discovered that listening to Mozart’s music could potentially raise IQ scores by as many as 9 points. Just how high are we on our own supply?

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