Mar 8, 2012

Dating a man you have met on the internet

It was a lot of fun when we were younger and the internet first came out and you made contact with people on the other side of the world, but is that what people still do today considering all the dangers involved? In the old days internet dating had some kind of stigma attached to it as people looked at you as being desperate, but now it is commonplace and many people resort to the internet to find a mate.

Women more at risk

Dating a complete stranger and meeting him in a cafĂ© where no one knows where you are and does not even know that you are out with a stranger poses a lot of risks. Women and children get snatched right in front of you in the park. Children are not safe by themselves on the street. All you have to do is watch the Criminal Investigations Network to see how many women have come to their end meeting strangers they had first met on the internet. To be sure, there are enough genuine people out there who are there to meet their next partner, and are there for the right reasons, but is it safe to look for your next husband on a TV screen and put yourself at risk? You don’t even know if the person on the other side of the screen is him. You don’t know him. He can’t see you and you can’t see him. There is physical danger, emotional danger and psychological danger.

Staying safe

Dating someone you’ve met in your everyday life and whose family and friends you know is difficult enough. Add the facts that this person is a voice on the phone and a few email letters, and you don’t even know which state he is in, where he works, where he lives, is a recipe for disaster. When you see pedophiles and predators lined up in a police lineup, most of them look like choir boys. If you insist on dating a man via emails, the telephone, or a television screen, here are some tips on how to stay safe:

• The first time you meet him on the screen or on the telephone, ask for his telephone number and his address. Do a back ground check. If he has lied about any of these three things, end your date immediately. Don’t even bother to discuss it. You want nothing to do with someone who would purposely lie to you about where he can be found.

• If his back ground checks out and he wants to go on a date, ask him if it is all right for a friend to come along. The more people who meet him make it better for you as there will be witnesses and he would not try anything.

• Be careful of men who can never speak to you at certain times of the day; they may be are married and cheating on their wives, and on you.

• Be especially careful of men who say they have to go on business once or twice a week to another state. Most of these men are lying and have mistresses.
INTRODUCING CHILDREN FROM TWO BROKEN MARRIAGES TO ONE ANOTHER One of the toughest things for a parent to do is how to introduce a child to a new partner and his children. For one thing, the child’s first fear will be that he might not be loved and cared for as before and that he will be alone – that his parents will be spending more time with each other than with them – and that his mother will be too preoccupied now with her new friend and his children to give him the attention he has always received. For a child, fear of being alone after a divorce or separation is high up on the list. The child might also believe that his father won’t have much time for their activities anymore and not come and see them at games and school concerts, or their. It is an uncomfortable and lonely time for a child. There are, however, things you can do to ease the process. Fears and tears There are several things to look at when introducing the children to one another. Remember, this is new to your partner’s children too. They will feel out of sorts, they might be shy, or even jealous that their father has another woman in his life. A child always wants his own mother and does not want to share her with other kids. Adjustments • Spend extra time with your kids. Suppertime is a good time to talk when everyone is relaxed and the children all have a chance to speak. Don’t make more of your child than the other kids. Treat all of them equally. • Give your kids extra attention at night when you put them to bed. Individual time allows the child to tell you freely what is bothering him. • Come to terms with the fact that despite everything you are doing, there will still be hiccups as the children adjust and get used to one another. There might also be jealousy. • In your private conversations with your kids at bedtime, tell them that nothing will change in their lives. You have met a nice man, you are happy, but will not forget you. • Have outdoor activities where the kids can play together and get to know one another. • Treat all the kids with respect and the same amount of affection. If there is one in the group who is sullen and moody, pay special attention to him or her. • Don’t interfere with how your partner reprimands his children. • If your child is rude to the other children, deal with it there and then. • If one of the kids does something out of rage, speak to him or her and remind everyone of the rules of the house. • Go to church together as a family even if the kids are at your house for the weekend. • Always try to have meals together as a family. A family who eats and pray together, stay together.