For some children, depending on their age, lying to a parent can range from small fibs over who dropped the eggs on the floor and did not clean up, to big carbuncles where money has gone missing in the house and no one knows anything about it. Usually someone knows; the person who took it. In any event, a three year old knows when he tells a lie that he is doing wrong and usually the lie is to escape punishment. As he grows older and becomes more developed he may discover that telling a lie has advantages and that by telling them he not only gets what he wants, but someone else gets the blame for what he’s done. The number one disadvantage for telling a lie is that you forget what you lied about previously, and you get caught up in your own lies.
How to handle continuous and unnecessary lying
• Set strict rules with consequences for anyone stealing money from the kitty, and list the punishment which can range from a two-hour timeout to no allowance for that week. When the child is found lying, carry out the punishment and don’t veer from it. Children have to know that you mean what you say and know that there will be consequences. If you don’t act on it they will take you for granted and not pay much attention the next time you chastize them. Punishment for a toddler need not be anything greater than a two minute timeout in his room.
• As a child grows older and is more developed you can start to reason with him. Something like, “if you tell mummy a lie, I will not know when you are telling the truth and I won’t believe you again even though it might be the truth.”
• Punishment does not mean sending him for a two minute timeout where he can have the remote control to the television set. It will in fact be a reward where he can watch his own program in peace.
• Encourage a child to always tell the truth, especially when he owns up to the infraction. Always punish and reward a child without threatening that you will tell his father. That sets the father up as the bad guy.
• Don’t become frustrated and spank. Cutting into his playtime or banning him from watching television is far more effective. Don’t label your child as a liar, but work with him to improve.
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Apr 17, 2012
How to flip a property and make some real cash
The number one requirement for success here is to find the right property. You want one that is in a good location, is run down so you can pay a low price for it, and can convert well. If you are a carpenter, plumber or a handyman who knows about building and plumbing, it is not that difficult to fix up an old barn or a house and sell it for a really good price. Below are some tips and ideas to help you make some cash.
• Look for a house that requires as little work as possible; after all, you are not going to live in it. You still however have to have a good product in the end.
• Draw up a plan and get your lumber, paint, brushes, stain and the right tools all from the same shop if you can. This will mean less running around.
• Buy a rundown property where the plumbing is working and there are no problems with drains and pipes. Be particularly careful with old wooden frames where there have been problems with beetles and other creatures.
• Buy all new bathroom fixtures; it will make a huge difference to the house. Small things like brass knobs for the doors and attractive towel racks can jazz up an old bathroom.
• Don’t rush the job. Fix up rotten floors and give the stain enough time to dry.
• Give the bathroom and the rest of the house a fresh coat of paint. A cold, damp, unattractive bathroom with a stained bowl is a sign that the rest of the house will not be worth looking at.
• Choose a house with a big kitchen you can renovate. The wife will want a spacious kitchen, a sparkling bathroom, and a house that is close to the schools.
• Have the right contractor who knows the right people to do a great job.
• Clean up all the rubble at the side of the house.
• When the house is complete, try and save some money by taking some great shots and putting your ad on the internet first. Great shots and greenery can help sell a house.
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• Look for a house that requires as little work as possible; after all, you are not going to live in it. You still however have to have a good product in the end.
• Draw up a plan and get your lumber, paint, brushes, stain and the right tools all from the same shop if you can. This will mean less running around.
• Buy a rundown property where the plumbing is working and there are no problems with drains and pipes. Be particularly careful with old wooden frames where there have been problems with beetles and other creatures.
• Buy all new bathroom fixtures; it will make a huge difference to the house. Small things like brass knobs for the doors and attractive towel racks can jazz up an old bathroom.
• Don’t rush the job. Fix up rotten floors and give the stain enough time to dry.
• Give the bathroom and the rest of the house a fresh coat of paint. A cold, damp, unattractive bathroom with a stained bowl is a sign that the rest of the house will not be worth looking at.
• Choose a house with a big kitchen you can renovate. The wife will want a spacious kitchen, a sparkling bathroom, and a house that is close to the schools.
• Have the right contractor who knows the right people to do a great job.
• Clean up all the rubble at the side of the house.
• When the house is complete, try and save some money by taking some great shots and putting your ad on the internet first. Great shots and greenery can help sell a house.
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What happens to our soul when we die
Discussions on death and dying are often subjects we avoid as we don’t know ourselves what the true answers are. Still, we know there is an afterlife. What is it for the Christians, the Muslims and the Jews? Is it a time at some point in the future where Jesus comes back? The time of Resurrection? The time of paying for our sins? Will the world come to an end, and then come to life again? There are so many unanswered questions, and no one can claim to know the truth.
In Islam, Muslims believe from the words in the Qur’an that two angels come to ‘pull the ruh’ – extract the soul. If the deceased has led a good life his soul will leave the body easily. If he has led a sinful life, extracting his soul will be like pulling teeth. The two angels have names and come together to get the soul. After this the body rots; the soul lives on. But what happens to the soul? At the moment of death the soul goes into barzakh – meaning that the soul is in a holding pattern with other souls who are eager to meet with family members. You have probably heard people who have lost a loved one say that they saw, just before the person died, that he seemed to be in another dimension and stretched out his arms to something only he could see, and exclaim that so and so is in the room.
I lost a family member a few days ago. My sister was in the room and said that immediately after her mother died she saw her mother in the room and was frightened. Another instance is where two high school grads, cousins and best friends were so close that they both died instantly in a Mercedes when they raced down the street, were buried together and that one of them, close to death, said that he wanted to go fishing as his cousin was there. I can relate several similar stories. My question is: is this real, a visitation, or a trick of the brain? I have heard that the brain is the last thing to go when someone dies. Is that so? It would explain the white bright light people who have had a near death experience come back from the dead and relate. I would like to hear a Jewish, Christian or even another Muslim answer to this.
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