You love the dog more than you love me

Are you dating a man who gets up at six every morning to take his dog for a walk, have special towels for the dog, had a water-proofed wooden house built for him, lets him sleep in the sun room if there is too much sun, and constantly shakes and airs out his bedding? Is he such a dog fanatic that he lavishes more private time on the dog than on you? We all know such a person; women who fuss and dress up their little long-haired canine snappers and men who are constantly at the vet checking out the best food for their Alsatians and Boerbools. For a dog lover such as this, it may seem that he loves the dog more than he does his partner, but really it is not so.



Is there a tinge of jealousy?

Men who love their dogs do not purposely set out to hurt the feelings of others. In fact, a person who loves animals will not ill-treat living beings. Only a compassionate dog lover will go all out to see that his dog has the best care, the best food, the best exercise and the best natural supplements. Think about it for a moment. Are you really concerned about the attention your partner gives to his dog? Do you want him to spend more time with you? If so, turn things around by participating in some of their activities. Going for a walk with the dog is fun and refreshing and you have a chance to talk. You can also make an effort to interact with the dog. When your partner sees your interest in his dog he will be happy and think of more activities for the three of you. Do more fun things with the dog on your own to really get your mate’s attention.



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He still sees his ex on the side

Maintaining a good relationship with your man is hard work and it is difficult enough to repair cracks in the courtship, but it is especially painful for you that whenever his ex-lover calls for one thing or another, he drops everything to go and see her. It does not matter what time of the day or night it is, if the rubber washer on the tap becomes faulty or she needs to talk to him, he is off. You believe him when he says the other woman is just like a sister to him now, but you don’t need another sister and do not need an extra person in your relationship; a couple means two.



What women want from a man

Most women will tell you that they are in a relationship because of the intimacy it affords them and that for them it is not just about sex. A woman wants a strong man in her life; one who can protect her and make her feel safe and one who can discuss all his innermost feelings with her. This is her domain, not the domain of an ex girlfriend. An ex-girlfriend must know her place. If it happened once, that’s okay; if it becomes a habit, it is not acceptable. And your lover must know this. An emotional relationship is far more dangerous than just a casual exchange of bodily fluids.



Remedying the situation

This need not be a difficult task if you handle it well; there are enough books on dating and relationships that you can check out to give you some ideas. The most important thing, however, is to approach the discussion you will have with dignity and without being accusatory. Tell your lover that you cannot play the third wheel in your courtship and that it is not a bad thing to tell his ex girlfriend that she should not come between them. These are jungle tactics where the male lion roars and all the females do his bidding. Roar back. Tell him that you absolutely believe that he is just friends with the other woman, but that his allegiance is with her and not someone he has broken up with. Buy her a special gift and give it to her over dinner.



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Internet-speak for idiots

The thing I love most about writing and blogging on the internet is that I love the challenge, the different ways to make money, and burning the midnight oil to finish an article. The thing I detest about this new online way of working is all the technological terms, that no one explains to you how to do things or show you in person. There is no personal contact and for a job where you have to know how to upload sites, add blogs and post links, it is all a little frustrating. For a person who wants to get down to the business of writing, it takes a long time to really understand how AdSense works, how to get traffic, what to do with the links and so on.



More articles equal more traffic and more money

For instance, ask anyone outside of this industry what a newbie or AdSense means, they couldn’t tell you. Assignments and tasks should be easy explained. If at the top of an article it states that you pay $4 an article, it should not state $2 at the bottom of the article. Times have changed in the workplace since the boss dictated to his typist and she could stop and ask questions when she did not understand, or had missed a word, or wanted to check a spelling. With online writing, deadlines, and monitored work we are fast becoming an assembly line of robots. Here are some aspects of online writing that bloggers and employers might benefit from.



Clarity of instruction


• Don’t take for granted that a writer who is commissioned to do an article on a certain subject or one outside of his or her expertise knows the language of that particular field. Every occupation has its own language and computer speak is one of them.

• When you employ writers it might be a good idea to give them a booklet in hard copy they can refer to for computer actions and SEO talk.

• Besides frequently asked questions and live chat, have a blog on the common things writers need to know about. If someone applies for an online writing job and on her first day finds out she has to spin articles, post the blogs, and a whole lot of technical things, it is not fair to her and you can potentially lose a writer.

• Be clearer with your instructions. We are getting our tasks and assignments online. We don’t have tutors who can show and explain things to us. Technology changes all the time and so too people have to be educated and clearly kept up to date.

• It frustrates writers when they have to stop writing to figure out an instruction they cannot get right. Was there a school for computer boffins growing out there while I remained glued to my laptop? Don’t get me wrong. I love the competition, the work and the buzz. I just freeze when I have to do any technical stuff. Clarity and patience is all a writer wants.



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