How God conscious are you?

If asked whether you believe in God, do you say you are not really religious, but you are God conscious? What does that mean? That you are conscious of God in a way that is not easily understood or explained or conscious of God because you try to do good things in your life? Which is it? The way it is used today it is almost like a new religion. Question: “What do you believe in?” Answer: “Oh, I don’t believe in anything; I’m God conscious.” Really, it’s a catch phrase meaning that you don’t know who and what you are; you believe, but without conviction.


Here’s what disqualifies you from being God conscious

• You give a beggar on the street a pie because he is hungry, but you tell everyone at the office about your good dead.

• You see a friend on the street trying to fix a punctured tire, you offer him help and then talk ill of him when he leaves.

• You pray to God, and later when you are with your friends playing cards, you have a Scotch on the rocks to make you feel lucky.

• You abide by all the rituals of prayer, and do not give a lift to your neighbor who walks from the church or the mosque in the rain.

• You have supper with your family, a friend drops by unexpectedly and you ask him to wait in the kitchen until you are done eating.

• You pay the faithful person who does the cleaning, make up the beds, look after your kids, but dish her food on an old plate and tell her to eat in the kitchen.


How generous are we really? We are all guilty of hypocritical acts. The person who says he is God conscious is not lying when he says in his own words that he is conscious of God. He is thinking of his spiritual life, or the lack of one. Will he strive towards it and make a conscious effort to be aware? To be aware is to be honest and responsible. It is at this juncture that we can stop and decide which way we want to proceed and become a conscious human being. There is a saying in the holy book that says that when a man reaches the age of forty and he has not yet developed a spiritual life, he never will.

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Avoid breaking custody laws in the US

As custody laws vary from state to state it would be beneficial to know the laws of the state you live in. For instance if you would like to go on a prolonged vacation with your kids to another state, educate yourself about the custody laws in that state. The children belong to both husband and wife and permission has to be granted if one of you want to cross over into another state. If you are not sure what to do, get in touch with an attorney who can advise you of your rights in your state.

Work together as a team

It is easier to get along with a former spouse than become an enemy when you have children and need to discuss legal matters. You don’t want to fight. You want to have respect for one another especially when it comes to children and their rights. If you are both agreeable parents it will be easier to talk about custodial rights and custody arrangements and what you can both do to facilitate matters. You want to keep the lines of communication open to avoid breaking custody laws. State websites in the US are the best places to get information. Go online and read as much as you can.

Be amicable for the kids

Be a team and work together to familiarize yourselves with state laws and custodial rights. There are also states which have family court services agencies which can provide information and advise you on the arrangements of your specific case. Keep the lines open with your ex spouse so that you can discuss things between you and don’t break the law. If you are concerned that you are doing wrong check with an attorney and discuss the matter. There is a lot of information you have to know regarding custodial rights and state websites are a good place to find them.

Final words

Whether you decide to be amicable or enemies is your choice; you are still the parents of kids whose rights have to be protected. Raising a child differs from state to state and it would be wise to be up to date on changes in custody law matters. Keep abreast of your state’s custody laws. Knowing the law is the best way to avoid breaking it.

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Should you work together in the same office

You should not. You have heard the proverb ‘familiarity breeds contempt’. You don’t want to overdo your time together. You want to leave work and leave behind the office and its work-related problems and come home to a family where you can spend time together and do activities with the kids.


Foreseeable problems in the workplace

• If a woman owns the business she would want advice from her husband but would like it to be her business and her project. There could be moments of embarrassment if both of you don’t agree on how to solve a business problem and you forget you are at work and lash out.

• Employees are good observers. They will sense if there is something wrong with the relationship and tell other employees and the workplace becomes a place for gossip and people start to leave.

• If your relationship is not sound in the first place the worst thing you can do for your business is fight in front of the staff. You lose respect from the staff and soon they will disrespect you.

• Don’t make a confidant of one of the employees and tell her your family problems. You will regret it.

• Spending 24 hours a day together can also become claustrophobic and rob you of time alone and fun with the rest of the family as you will bring your work problems home.


Keep things in perspective

• Make a point of taking two nights off a week where both of you take a break and spend time with your family.

• Don’t bring the accounts and books home with you – and don’t talk about your work all the time. If you have kids they need care and you should spend time listening to their needs and what they have to say.

• Take at least one or two afternoons off after school that the children know is time that will be spent taking them out. There are many activities for families, and a zoo is also a great place to visit as everyone loves animals.

• Don’t talk about business all the time and invite people from work for barbecues, unless they are family and friends. One needs a break from the working environment.

• Give the kids a bonding session by having a movie night on Friday nights and all of you cuddle up on the couch and make popcorn or pancakes. Your family is more important than your work.


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